Friday, June 28, 2013

A Reason, A Season a Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support,
To aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are..
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
This person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons,
Things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson,
Love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant
Thank you for being a part of my life,
Whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.
~Author Unknown 

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Thursday, June 27, 2013

Thursday's Shit I Don't Understand

Frozen lunches where there is more than 1 of the same item in the packaging yet it says its a serving of 2 - how are you splitting that shit up?

This whole Paula Deen scandal - I have read the complaint and all 149 pages of her deposition and all I can say is OMG seriously Paula? I get she's busy and really isn't involved with either restaurant, but its a clear case of the right hand has no clue what the left hand is doing. I get the whole raised "old school" in the south but shit. Don't even get me started on her brother Bubba - that man is just scum.

The name North West ... say huh, um ok. Yes they have explained it and why but still ... I do like the nickname Nori.. Their name of choice has spawned a bunch of jokes - my favorite being that Kim vagina is now being renamed the North West Passageway..

Why weekends are not 3 days long all the time. I really need a Saturday part 2 tossed in there.

People who say they wished they had time to get fit/workout but they are SOOOO busy, then spend 5 hours sitting on the couch every night watching TV. Either get up and do something about it or shush. You don't get to complain you hate being overweight sitting on your ass filling your mouth full of Cheetos.

I don't understand how someone can defend a persons "right" to say things that are offensive to an entire race of people and 3 facebook posts later state "May God have mercy on America" over the Supreme Courts ruling today in regards to same sex marriage.  I do believe I read somewhere your higher power is against ALL kinds of hate, You and Fred Phelps will figure that out one day I suppose.

What has you confused today???

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Tuesday, June 25, 2013

Favorite Vacation, Ever - A Link Up


Hands down my favorite vacation ever is the one we took almost 2 years ago to Oahu Hawaii.  We rented a house with my in-laws and the whole family went D Mom and Dad, Sister and her husband their 2 kids and us. Ok so the getting there wasn't exactly a dream - its a long ass flight - but everything after that was amazing.

That is the view from the living room picture window and yes the people at the far left is my family. I took this the first day we were there, as we waited for our lost luggage to arrive. Somehow our bags got off the plane in Denver and decided to stay there.. No worries I had packed clothing in our carry on's as I was worried about lost luggage. Still best vaca ever.

We got in about 1 am and went to sleep - our windows were open and we slept to the sound of the waves hitting the beach - hands down I LOVE sleeping to the sound of the ocean. That is one of my 2 favorite sounds on earth.

The next day we hit the store to stock the kitchen at the house. The plan was to eat most meals at the house generally breakfast and dinner. We were there for 9 days there was no way we were eating out 3 meals a day for 9 days.

 Yep I'm a total geek and took pictures of the price tags at the store.  Yes that is for 1 gallon of milk and 1 loaf of bread.

 This was a display at Costco, the orchids covered the entire display

While we were there we went to the North Shore, Germains Luau (that was awesome fun), Pearl Harbor, the Aloha Swap Meet, the International Farmers Market, Foster Botanical Gardens, Waikiki, the Queens Summer House, The Temple of Kings (by far my favorite place on the trip, it was so serene).  China Town, Sea Life Park.

D was afraid I wasn't getting back on the plane to come home - I do want to live there someday. The ocean as my back yard, falling asleep every night to the sound of the waves....

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Monday, June 24, 2013

Weekend Shenanigans

Sami's Shenanigans

I am not sure where the weekend went man they do fly by.  Friday I picked up my new phone - I ended up going with the Galaxy 4 and having them turn off the eye recognition features. So far I am loving the 4 - its a lot of fun to play with.

Saturday I got up and hit the gym pretty hard. Then off to do some shopping. Saturday night we went to dinner and a movie with my sister in law and brother in law. Saw World War Z ... most of that movie is an intense on the edge of your seat kinda movie. I was shocked that I actually enjoyed it as I am not in the whole zombie thing.

Part way through the movie however my stomach started to bother me and has not quit. Its really strange its pretty sore and gets worse if I eat.. At least its not as bad today as it was over the weekend.

Sunday I had paperwork at the office to do which took a few hours - then I slide my ass into a pedicure chair and ended with an hour and a half pedi. So worth it.  
Then we headed over to Princess Peeps and saw and hung out with Lil man for a few hours.  He's getting so big and looks just like a little man.  After that we headed home and my mom came over for a bit.

How was your weekend??

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Friday, June 21, 2013

Hello Friday!!!

WOOOT Its Friday!!! Holla

This week has been a long interesting week.. Work's been booming and I have had a lot going on.  I have been hitting the gym pretty hard after work and have added weights back into my routine - my shoulders are screaming..

Lets see Wednesday I received my Glam bag after it took a detour to Maryland.

Disregard the background stuff - I really need to clean off my kitchen table! The Can of stuff is dry shampoo which I'll toss in my gym bag for emergencies. The white pencil is highlighter in Ivory - I used this Thursday morning and LOVE it so simple to use swipe and blend and you are done!

The lip pencil is a soft pink.. I don't do lipstick except once or twice a year so this may hit my drawer for a long time. I'm just not a lipstick person I hate that it gets everywhere, your coffee cup your napkin etc. I know there are products out there that don't get on anything but that is a whole different ballgame - they feel weird on and take an act of congress to remove - that is if they don't get sticky after an hour. Meh no thanks.

The blush is a mosaic product and the colors blend pretty well together - it was the first time I have used a product with this concept. I have high hopes for this and want to see how it handles the day and the Midwest humidity - thus far my all time favorite is MAC.

Ah the bane of this months Glam Bag - every review I have read is not good - this looks like glitter eye shadow however it is actually glittery body product and should be no where near your eyes - its suspended in petroleum jelly (paging breakouts). The colors however are very eye shadowy colors so I can see where it is being mistaken for eye shadow. I'm passing mine right on to a friends "tween" as I am way past the age of wearing body glitter (paging Mariah Carey).

Tonight after work I am headed straight to the T-Mobile store and finally getting me a new phone.  Mine is full and no longer functioning properly. I am leaning toward the Samsung Galaxy 3  - yes I know the 4 is out but after checking the features and comparing them I think the 3 will fit nicely what I need and certain features of the 4 are really just going to piss me off. Especially that eye function where you scroll screens using your eyes. I just know I will be in the middle of a business email look at the phone wrong and then BAM my email is gone. I'll just save the frustration and bitching now and get the 3.

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Thursday, June 20, 2013

Shit I Don't Understand

Here lately there are quite a few things that I just don't get.

1. Using the picture of you the day you went into labor as your "before" picture.

That is so not a before picture, that is a picture of you in all your glory getting ready to deliver a new person.  That is also NOT your starting weight. Take a picture and weight at 6 weeks postpartum and go from there.

2. The whole "real women" have curves meme craze.

So what you are telling me is that the women who worked really fricken hard to be toned, strong and healthy are not real?? WTF kind of concept this that?  By the way "skinny shaming" is just as bad as "fat shaming". Knock it the fuck off - as long as blood is flowing through her veins ALL women are real.

3. Women coming to work and applying their make up in the public restroom.

Girl were you not just home? you had to be because strewn all over both sinks in the public restroom is a makeup kit drag queens would kill for. Most people don't carry that in their purse.  I can understand rushing in the morning and waking up late, but chicky you do this 3 times a week. Oh and btw YES blue glittered eye shadow IS a bit much for the office - save it for your reapply tonight before you leave for the club.

4. Women who freak the hell out for licking a snickers bar.

Yes this was a REAL conversation, Ms. Lady was tripping out about how she blew her diet and fell off the wagon hard. When you got down to brass tacks ALL she had done was lick the damn mini snickers bar and then threw it in the trash.  Whatever calories she absorbed by licking the damn thing I am certain she burned by walking to the trash can.

Ladies get a grip - you can indulge every once in awhile - if you don't then what the hell do you do to enjoy life?? Why bother trying to be healthy and live longer if your going to life like a martyr?? Eat the damn mini snickers bar!!

What's going on that you just quite don't get these days???

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You must put a period at the end of an experience. You must bring closure to it and experience when it is over. Lyanla Vanzant

Wednesday, June 19, 2013

Monday, June 17, 2013

Weekend Shenanigans

Sami's Shenanigans

Hello Monday - wasn't ready for you at 6:15 this morning I'll admit it but lets get Monday done and in the books!!

Friday was the crap icing on a craptacular week last week just sucked hard and outloud. Midway through the day D emailed me and asked how my day was - and yes this is a perfectly acceptable answer - vodka send vodka was the reply.  Friday night we opted for a pizza and video game night.

I got home and ordered the pizza and changed into lounging clothes. The pizza and D showed up at the same time and D had vodka and cranberry juice! I worked out my frustrations killing stuff and drinking - awesome Friday night actually.

Saturday during the day we just chilled D played his new game and I read 2 books and got a workout in.   Saturday night we hit Ernie Biggs Dueling Piano Bar.. had a great time! I love the piano bar its a fun time. I managed to drink 7 Absolutes and Cranberries - oops ..

I do have one question WTAF is up with guys wearing their hair in a bun? I saw 3 guys in the bar sporting this style. When did this become popular and why on earth hasn't anyone told them how silly they look??

I also learned that Taco Bell makes a fab shredded chicken burrito (don't judge, I haven't been to Toxic Hell in over 8 months.) All I kept saying was "DAMN this is a GOOD fricken burrito, hey babe did you know they make a GOOD fricken burrito". D was sober and swears they are that damn good sober as well so it wasn't just the vodka. He did however suggest I do NOT look up the calorie count on that bad boy - I'm gonna heed that advice, in fact once 8 p.m came I stopped counting anyhow and declared a free for all.

Sunday I got up around 10:30 ish, nope no hang over either, D was playing his game again so I started reading another book.  About 1 we headed to Kohl's and got D some new jeans and a few shirts - yeah we did clothes for father's day since I bought clothes for Mother's Day and frankly he NEEDED new jeans bad!  After Kohl's we hit the New York Dawg Pound for some hot dogs and fries - yeah another no count day ;-) man they were good.. Sunday night Princess Peep brought Lil Man over and we played with him for almost 2 hours before he was tired out and ready to go home and get a bath and head night night.. Love that Lil Man he flat cracks me up. I taught him to say Batman - or something similar.

How was your weekend??

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Friday, June 14, 2013

Friday Letters

Dear Friday, thank you for finally getting here - its just not been my week.

Dear Summer thank you for getting here I was beyond tired of freezing.

Dear DG'ers thanks for lending an ear and some kind words before I totally lost it.

Dear Complex please reopen the damn gym I'm slowly going insane.

Dear Spotify thank you for the tunes.

To the ones who don't get it - you don't have to get it. Its not a big deal that you don't understand why I did something or you think its odd.  Frankly I am perfectly fine with you thinking I am odd. at least odd isn't boring.

“As long as you make an identity for yourself out of pain, you cannot be free of it.” 

~Eckhart Tolle

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Thursday, June 13, 2013

Letter to my 21 year old self - a link up


I debated pretty hard about participating in this link up - Love me some Holly but my 20's pretty sucked and yes it was my fault - so I decided to go ahead and participate.

Dear my 21 year old self..

No getting married at 19 was NOT brilliant - save yourself a few more years of heartache and divorce him now. He won't change, he won't get help and its not your issue to fix - you can't fix it.  In fact learn this now - you can't fix anyone and its not your job to do so.

Oh and in a few years you will meet a man and have the chance to move to Florida DON'T - I repeat DO NOT fucking go - it will turn out worse than being married to an abusive man.

Do not take the things that happen when your grandmother passes away personally - you do not have the entire story and won't until you are in your 30's.  If you do it will lead to years of being estranged from all 3 of your sisters and one day you will wake up and 16 years will pass, you will be on the verge of 40 and will still not be speaking to them.

Look at things from a different perspective - yes even when its your fathers - instead of getting in the mindset of "Its my life and I can fuck it up brilliantly" because Darlin' you do and it takes years before you are able to trust anyone and even your own decisions.

Above all keep your chin up - you do make it through this, and you make it through wonderfully. By 26 you meet a man who you do marry, you doesn't yell or hit. You meet a man who is kind and patient, loving and who adores you. Smile he thinks that everything the world has thrown in your way you have dodged beautifully and with grace and dignity.

You are a strong women but buckle your seat belt  - the universe has decided you are the only one who can ride out the storms about to come your way. Just remember this came to pass it didn't come to stay. In the middle of all the chaos it will be the little things that keep you holding on so stop and savor them while you have them.

Love me.

PS I have heard that turning 40 is the new 20 and women everywhere are having the most fun then - so hey its something to look forward to.. Oh and ditch the haircut your sporting it seriously looks like crap.

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Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Transformation Tuesday

Fitcamp does what they call transformation Tuesdays, in all honesty because its easier to see progress when you do side by side pictures. Just looking in the mirror everyday doesn't make it click. I can't tell you how many times I have heard someone say "I'm not getting anywhere, I see no change and I am frustrated" as soon as you have them make a side by side they are generally blown away.

So on Tuesday's everyone posts an older picture right next to one taken either that day or a few days earlier.  I haven't done a transformation Tuesday college as of yet because frankly there are very few pictures of me from back when. I am generally the one behind the camera. Yes by design - everyone hates to be the fat girl in the picture so they are the first to volunteer to take the pics.

There is a drawback to that however so STOP IT - get in the picture or you will discover there are no pictures of you. No pictures with your daughter, your husband, your mom or even your dad who passed away a few years ago so there is no time left to get a picture. GET IN THE DAMN PICTURES!!

 Your family and friends don't see a fat girl - they see the person they love, who makes them laugh, who hugs their fears away. Your kids see the wonderful person who kisses their boo-boos and makes the closet monster go away at night. Years from now they will want pictures to look back on and "remember the that one time".

I know its hard to stop being critical of yourself - but give yourself a break you would never say to your best friend "bitch your too fat to photograph" yet you say it to yourself all the time.  Be kind to yourself - if you're not going to be, who will?

The picture on the left was taken circa 2007. The one on the right was taken this morning. Yes, I got photo bombed by the cat.. 

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Monday, June 10, 2013

Weekend Shenanigans

Sami's Shenanigans

WOW what a weekend - I actually started mine Thursday at noon..  I ran some errands then headed home to unwind and watch trash tv.  That evening I picked up antibiotics for lil man and ran them over to his mom and hung out with them.

Friday I slept in a bit and just hung out. Puttered around the house, surfed the net watched TV (yeah there's a theme here it was my weekend to just be, D was out of town on his annual boys fishing trip).

6 ish I met up with my sister in law, nephews and my mother and father in law for dinner at the Olive Garden - which at that point in time I remembered that I had forgotten to eat that day. (Actually happens often lol)

Friday night I grabbed the laptop loaded a DVD into it and cleaned out the closet and my dresser I have 4 huge bags of things that are now too big destined for Goodwill.. Holla. I will admit however to looking at the clock at 11 pm and thinking WOW its 11 on Friday night and I am cleaning closets LAME.  I finally went to bed about 2 am.

Saturday the alarm went off at 8 am and I lounged in bed til 8:30 then up and got ready to meet a friend of mine, we had plans to go into downtown KC.  We had a good time lots lots of laughs.  I came back home about 1 ish ordered some Jimmy Johns watched Friends with Benefits that had been on the DVR waiting on me forever.

Early Sat evening I got a call from Peep asking me why her Aunt DA was leaving her a voice mail about her Nana and what the hell was going on. I had just left CVS so I went flying to my moms to see what the eff was up. Turns out my darlin mother has an admirer who was stalking her - she had called T-Mobile and asked that they block his phone number. Someone there royally fucked up and blocked ALL incoming calls - I guess my sister has been trying to reach mom all day and couldn't then we no one else picked up their cells she called the police to do a welfare check.. Its funny now - I wasn't amused then as mom wasn't going to call the police at first.

I hung out at my mom's until almost 10 just chatting and Peep and Lil Man had shown up. We had a good time just visiting. I headed home to finish sorting and purging stuff, walked in the house changed into a tank and shorts then back out on the deck where I then proceeded to rip open the bottom of my left foot.  I apologize to the neighborhood children who learned many new words that evening.  I gouged it open pretty good and deep my language matched ;-)

Sunday was my normal errand day. I headed to the office to get my paperwork done as Monday was our billing period then headed to Wal-Mart to get my nails done and the weekly grocery shopping. There's 3 hours of my life gone. Seriously I got to there at 1:30 and did not leave until 4:15.

Next weekend I do believe we are going to DO something. Maybe the piano bar or clubbing. The last few weeks are really starting to sound like we are in our golden years.. Fuck that - its time to paint the town red for a change!

How was your weekend???

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Thursday, June 06, 2013

Stop taking life so seriously ......

Shit no one gets out alive NO ONE - I promise..

When was the last time you just stopped and took in what was around you?  Most of us run Mach 3 with our hair on fire (bonus points if you know where that came from.)  No one get to the end of their life and says "Damn if I had only spent one more day at the office." Generally we lament about the missed chances to see family, or take vacations. We regret the moments not spent with spouses and children because we were at the office.

So stop take a minute take it all in. Slow down. Learn balance - yes we have to work but working should never be what we live for.  Dance in the rain, ride the roller coaster, snuggle in bed and watch Saturday morning cartoons. Belly laugh until the tears run down your face.

That presentation is not going to be what holds your hand when you take your last breath.

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Tuesday, June 04, 2013

Its all in the recovery

When life tosses you a curve ball remember its all in how you react and recover.

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Monday, June 03, 2013

Weekend Shenanigans

Sami's Shenanigans

Pretty quiet weekend around our house.  Friday night we just chilled and watched TV as D had to work the next day.

Saturday I puttered around the house, read and caught up on my DVR. Seriously low key day. I did attempt to get some yoga in at home - I say attempted because the 20 lb (yes 20) maine coon cat that allows us to live in his house thinks that every time I lay on the floor and contort into funny shapes that is his cue to come help. Read lay on the floor and bop me on the head or come try to lay on my back and he gets pissy when I move him.

Sunday I went through all my old jeans that were to big but damn near brand new and put about 10 pairs in a bag to sell at Plato's Closet. I figured I'd get about $45- 50 right? They were all brand new, worn a handful of times and came from places like Banana Republic or were Lee jeans (Plato's only takes label's). HAHAHA Was I wrong. I had over and hour wait (everyone was there cleaning out closets) and they only wanted 2 pairs - apparently they are "not accepting flares at this time" Grand total $13.25 for 2 pairs of jeans that were like $70 each and almost an hour and a half of my time... Meh I'll take it that's almost 3 Venti Soy Lattes ;-)

I left there and ran to the ultimate Geek/Nerd heaven (Microcenter) to pick up a desktop pc and monitor for work and dropped it off at the office and headed home.  Shortly after I got home my daughter brought lil man over to visit. Highlight of my weekend right there, playing with my grand baby.

How was your weekend?

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Just Finished - Mother, Mother - Koren Zailckas

Ever have a book that once you finish it you have no idea what to read next because nothing sounds good after the world you just finished. ...