Wednesday, May 27, 2015

19 Kids and WHAT? (Possible triggers)

I started this post about half a dozen times and had to walk away I get so angry.

 Apparently sometime in 2002 Josh Duggar was discovered to be molesting a few of his sisters and a non family member. It came to light in 2006 to The Oprah Winfrey show, according to the police report Harpo Studios supplied the Arkansas State Police a copy of the email they received when someone in the community the Duggar's live in found out that Oprah was going to have the Duggars on the show. That email prompted an investigation. According to their own statements Jim Bob and Michelle had known for years.

SAY WHAT?? The family has stated that they sought counseling for Josh and also his victims. In all honestly it appears they sent Josh to a religious counseling camp that is ran by someone who has been accused multiple times of child molestation himself. He also happens to be a friend of the family. They declared Josh "rehabilitated" and sent him home. Those poor girls, I can't imagine having to exist every single day in the same house with my abuser. What message did Jim Bob and Michelle really send their girls?

Between the cover up and the fact Josh was still at home add to the fact their own beliefs that women simply are not of the same value as men how exaggerated is the "its my fault" feeling that ALL victims deal with? Michelle's philosophy of life, which she teaches to her kids is that first and foremost her husbands needs are above all else.  She lives by what she calls the 7 Basic Needs of a Husband. It all boils down to teaching her girls that its 100% their job to keep their man happy - no matter how they feel and their needs are last. I'd bet a dozen donuts that teaching extends to her sons.

Over the past few days a metric shit ton of support has come pouring forth for Josh. Statements from his wife and father in law caused my eye to twitch for 2 days. Anna says during the courting phase Josh sat her and her father down and explained to them what he did. They looked at him and said you asked forgiveness and it was given, its all good lets go get married... WTF Anna?? This man looks at you and says he molested his SISTERS and you are okay with this?? How did your father not look at you and say "Girl what the hell is wrong with you?"

The Governor of the state, Mike Huckabee,  has come out in support - his statement is just as flame worthy. This is just part of his statement  "good people make mistakes and do regrettable and even disgusting things," and accused those who revealed the allegations of "insensitive bloodthirst," and said Josh Duggar had redeemed himself in living a "responsible and circumspect life as an adult."

This family has made more than one statement that Gay people are destroying the American family values, Michelle has spoken out about having an Anti Discrimination law repealed. They have stated they would disown a child who was gay, but apparently a child sexual predator is fine and dandy with them.  But wait Jim testified in congress that incest and child rape should be punished by death. Yes death. This was AFTER 2002. How was he going to exempt his own son???

With all the support being thrown in Josh's corner, whos supporting the victims? They are the ones who need to hear it. How do they feel with all the "oh he was forgiving" and "yes, it was a horrible thing he did but..." How are they coping? The support and concern is being given to the wrong person here.

To the victims, its NOT okay. Do not forget them when to many are trying to hug Josh, support Josh and make sure Josh is okay. Who gives a damn if Josh is okay? I don't...

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Tuesday, May 26, 2015

Favorite Products this Season and a Tip

* This is not a sponsored post - I paid for all these items out of my pocket.

I found new shampoo at Target that I picked up and have used a few times now. I am totally loving this new line thus far. I both highlight my hair and heat treat it constantly. So I try to baby it. I purchased the Moisture Line which is formulated with both apricot and honey, both supposed to be very good for your hair.

I also replaced my Chi flat iron. It died last summer, at that time I purchased a flat iron from hot tools. Which worked fairly well, though I realized how much better the Chi is when I used it Sunday. My hair is much softer, shiner, it doesn't "crunch" and its much straighter. I'll never cheat on my Chi again. The hot tools is in storage for emergencies only.  I will add that I repurchased the original Chi after reading reviews on that the the newer Chi isn't the same, it doesn't last as long and doesn't do as good a job in straightening your hair with the least amount of damage as possible.

At the moment JC Penney has these on sale. There are also coupon codes that can be bundled with it. I got mine on sale bundled coupon codes and reward points with it then used my ebates for cash back.  By the way if you do any online shopping at all and are not using ebates, uh why the hell not?? I purchased quite a few things that I was out of last weekend while ebates celebrated their 16th birthday, so most of what I purchased also came with 16% cash back!  You can sign up for ebates here ~>  Ebates

A few months ago in my Ipsy bag I received a Luxie large angled face brush. I have used it constantly since. Luxie brushes are 100% animal cruelty free so they are totally synthetic, however they are so soft and fluffy. I plan on replacing all my brushes with Luxie brushes. They have a face set that I am eyeing.

Tip time:

The weather warms up and families start scheduling family pictures. Ladies, be aware of your products, those that contain sunscreen will reflect the flash back to the camera causing that "white out" look.  When you are looking at having pictures taken be mindful of either having to use flash photography or skip the suncreen in your products for that day and reach for the HD or Photo finish products..

Pictures were taken at the same time, left is with flash the right is without. On the left see how much lighter my face is on my cheeks - my highlighter apparently contains a shit-ton of sunscreen! I will say I do like the way it diffuses light but not that my face looks 2 shades lighter than my neck and chest.

* I did edit my "bitch wrinkle" out but that is the ONLY edit *

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Monday, May 25, 2015

Noticing a Trend Here

I have noticed over the past few weeks that my most viewed posts are the controversial ones that I have posted, like my thoughts on Bruce Jenner and Jesus Only Likes Dress Pants followed up by makeup posts and confessionals. Those are also the posts that have generated the most emails. So I will be digging into those types pf posts more often and less "fluff", honestly how many food pictures and weekend review type posts can you do anyway??

My goal with controversial subjects is always to present another view point, or to get a conversation going. I never set out to try to offend anyone.  So I apologize in advance if I offend, I do ask however that if you find yourself offended and cussing at me through your computer to stop and think WHY am I so offended? What nerve did this touch?

I still don't have a "blogging schedule" so to speak. I have discovered that when I try to stick to a regimented blogging schedule I end up with bloggers block and can't find anything blog about or I will try to force the post and its very apparent it was forced. I will still aim for a few posts a week but I am not going to have a set post day like I did before. The Monday, Wednesday, Friday thing just gives me anxiety. I also noticed that it paved the perfect track for me getting into a rut. Monday weekend review - lets face it most of the time it wasn't worthy of sharing, I like to stay home and chill in sweats. Wednesday is either confessions or wordless - the confessions y'all liked just not every single Wednesday. Friday's ended up being a favorites posts again just more fluff.. Sorry Y'all.

If you have suggestions or questions you can leave me a comment, I try to answer every comment I can unless you are a "no-reply" blogger and then I can't. You can also email me. I am working on a few new things, I have some new products to review, I am also starting to work with Blogging for Books to do book reviews and I am sorting out all my thoughts on the whole Duggar scandal. That one is proving to be a little tricky as my thoughts on what he did are so rigid. I find I have no objectivity.

Give thanks for the day, then go out and get all up in it,

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Saturday, May 23, 2015

The One Where I Changed My Mind. (Beauty Post)

The One Where I Change My Mind ....

So about a year or so ago I made the statement - ok a few times that I didn't think high end foundations were worth the money or the hype, they were all formulated the same drug store would work just fine and that eye shadows where were to splurge.. .... Did you hear that?? Yes, that is the sound of me eating my own words.

Over the past year I have had issues with my skin that I have never really had. I didn't have major issues as a teenager - guess this is the pay off, wrinkles AND acne, cystic acne at that. Seriously Mother Nature - not funny.  Right around the time I turned 40, my normally "normal" skin - not dry not oily- turned on the freaking oil factory. My makeup didn't stay, everything creased.  Eye primer fixed the eye shadow creasing and then disappearing. I still had issues with my foundation.

Something I pretty much thought I had to just live with. I had started tossing a sponge in my makeup bag and my tube of foundation and reapplying after lunch. I did cycle through a few different types of foundations searching for something truly matte and with staying power it also had to be full coverage. I have just always loved the full makeup look of the old glam Hollywood. I probably get it from my grandmother who was never caught out of the house without full makeup. Her favorite foundation? Old school pan makeup.

Fully fed up with separated flaky and cakey patches by 2 pm I ordered some Amazon Clay Foundation by Tarte and the accompanying brush that beauty bloggers all over said was the best way to apply the foundation to get the best look and coverage. This stuff is BEYOND awesome.  It stays put, it doesn't cake flake or disappear, It stays matte. Something I really want especially in the humid summers of the Midwest.

The clay in the formula is what keeps the foundation matte and on your face. This winter I may have to find something else depending on how the winter here is. However maybe not if my face keeps up the oil slick routine.  I have high hopes that I have found my "holy grail" of foundations.

What do you use? What about it makes it your go to?

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Wednesday, May 20, 2015

Wednesday Confessions

Its been a little heavy around here lately so I thought I would lighten up and do confessions this week..

I confess:

I love watching makeup tutorials on YouTube.  I however, can not figure out why lots of ladies out there are heavily defining their eyebrows. Stop drawing boxes on your face and filling them in.. You look ridiculous. Makeup should always be blended. No one should see the guidelines you use to shape your brows. It also goes without saying don't use your mascara to fill in your brows. No it does not look good. No it does NOT say "I'm so good with makeup" it does say you ran out of brow powder and are winging it...

NO more wire hangers (if you don't get the wire hanger reference just blow right passed it) and NO MORE BOXES!!!

At 2 am this morning I yelled at a loud drunk girl to shut the hell up.. Last night the weather was nice enough to turn off the air and open the window so I did. Took two melatonin, put in my ear plug and went to sleep. At 2 am the aforementioned drunk girl came home being a total tool woke me from a dead sleep and even with ear plugs I could hear her plain as day. So I may have yelled out the open window its 2 am shut the hell up.. She responded well its like that, okay then. Yes its like that and I am not sorry. Some of us had to get up in a few hours for work.  It took me an hour to get back to sleep - party girl is on my glitter bomb list.

Today is my Friday and then I have the next 5 days off.. Yes I am happy dancing.  I need a breather.

I have to take my 14 year told cat to the vet tomorrow to have him checked out and I am NOT looking forward to it. At 14 vet visits get scary.

This stuff made me laugh

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Tuesday, May 19, 2015

Jesus Only Likes Dress Pants

When did we be come a nation of woosies and when did common sense become not so common?  This morning alone I have read several different articles about kids of varied ages being thrown out of prom or sent home from school due to "attire". The latest a young man in North Carolina being ejected from prom for wearing a kilt. His late grandfather's kilt, worn to show respect.

Wearing kilts is not a new event for him, the teen said he has worn kilts to formal events since childhood to celebrate his heritage. The prom he was refused entry to: A Christian alternative prom for home-schooled kids.  As part of their statement they said "we want to keep things about Jesus". Last I checked Jesus was about acceptance.  Prom organizers cited the dress code of young men being in dress pants or tux pants. No jeans, no baggy/saggy pants no shorts.

I have seen the pictures of the young man and his date as they are also online. I see nothing inappropriate about his kilt. It is of proper length, organizers tried to tell him it was to short, hitting slightly below his knees. He wore the proper accompaniments with the kilt and a dress shirt and bow tie. His date was in an sleeveless gown with black converse sneakers and had purple hair.  Her dress was actually more revealing than his kilt.

What I can't understand is how his kilt detracts from Jesus?  Didn't Jesus talk about acceptance and tolerance?  I will say in general I have found "Christians" to be the most judgmental and intolerant of people. Which generally blows my mind how in one breath can you say "Jesus teaches that we should love everyone as we love ourselves, and teach the masses my love and kindness" and in the next say " you are going to hell, the bible says ____ is wrong!" In reality what they want is you to conform to their idea of how you should be. How you should act, and what you should believe. I learned that lesson early on, and its why I am a Buddhist.

Honestly what the world needs is more people who are doing their thing, being kind to each and making a difference for the better, if you want to do that rocking a kilt then rock a kilt. As long as you are not hurting people, kicking puppies and abusing kids I don't give a damn what you wear.

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Friday, May 15, 2015

Filterless or Oblivious - There is a Difference.

There is a huge difference of being filterless and being totally oblivious. I generally run around filterless. Basically if you ask me what I think of something I will tell you, honestly what I think. I do temper that with kindness however. Especially if you are someone I care about.

Being oblivious is pretty much running your mouth with no consideration of who your audience is or how what you say may affect them. You just have to say what it is you are thinking regardless of word choice. You feel it is your given right to run your mouth.  You are so wrapped up in your own indignation you either do not care who you are speaking to or you forget who it is your spewing your vitriol to, or more accurately, at.

Earlier this week I found myself on the receiving end of an oblivious tirade being orchestrated by someone who is actually close to me. Three days later I find that I am still shocked and upset by what was said.  In the moment I was so shocked at what was spewing forth I was unable to react, to speak to do anything more than think "Did I really just hear that"? My heart hurt at what had just been said, hell it still does. I am really not sure I will ever totally move passed it.

I am all for saying what you think, how you feel, and being authentic but I am also a huge fan of knowing your audience and kindness.  You can say what you feel, even angry, and be kind about it.  Not everything has to be a huge rage induced declaration that pretty much just says your being an asshole. When you cross over to the asshole category of your rant I lose any sympathy I may have had for you. Instead I start to become angry at you.  I will no longer see your point, your right to be angry when you cross the line and start attacking and being obnoxious.

I encourage people to speak their minds, be authentic, be filterless YET be kind. You can stand up for yourself and let people know what you think or how you feel without tearing anyone else down.

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Monday, May 11, 2015

There I said it.

I don't like Mother's Day - there I said it.  I have actually never admitted this to anyone. Thing is I pretty much dread it every single year. To day I have a strained relationship with my daughter is putting it mildly.  We have since she was a tweens.  One mother's day even ended the day with a physical altercation.

My relationship with my own mother is just as odd. I grew up as the baby and as an only child. I was the surprise baby that came along after my mother was sure she was done having kids. So my sisters were out of the house when I grew up. Thus the only/baby status.  Generally the baby is mom's favorite and my sisters do think that however conversations with my mother generally are centered with how wonderful my sisters are, how much better they treat her than I do and how much more established they are.

What my mom doesn't take into consideration is that she sees my sisters on vacation - I am the only one of her kids who lives in the same town. So yes they spoil her freaking rotten when she is there with them, its vacation behavior. Spa days and evening out to the theater. I am the one here in the day to day writing the checks to cover her medications, groceries and utilities when something goes wrong and there is a snafu that shortens her already fixed income. Sorry I didn't take you to the  Broadway show and the spa mom, I replaced your refrigerator when it shot craps.  A movie at fork and screen will have to do.

Yesterday I saw an overload of the mother's day celebrations all over social media - yeah I know its a highlight reel. I get it. I did wonder though what it was like to have kids that planned those days, that took mom breakfast in bed with a homemade card and a smile. What's it like to have a mom that appreciates that while you may not take her on spa days or cruises you care that she has her meds or that her milk isn't spoiled.

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Sunday, May 03, 2015

Weekend Shenanigans

How is it Sunday already???

Friday night was hanging with Lil Man. Building train tracks and walls with mega blocks.  Generally just hanging out having a good time .

One of these days I will find another TV stand.. That one just isn't cutting it anymore.. 

Saturday I woke up to my Twitter notifications going off like crazy.. The new Princess of Cambridge was born!!  Yes I had Twitter alerts set - nope not sorry. I grew up in Europe and have been a HUGE fan of the British Royal Family for decades.  Then the announcement was made that the Family would be going home 12 hours after thy checked in and I pulled up the live feed - this was me Saturday - Watching the live feed and a movie on the TV.

I even took the laptop in the bathroom with me to watch while I did my hair and makeup to get ready to hit the Royals game. Nope - still not freaking sorry..

The New Princess..

This is my favorite tribute to the Royal birth yet. The Tower Bridge lit up pink - its so pretty..

It looks like a pretty pink tiara all lit up.. 

Saturday afternnon/evening found us at Kaufman Stadium for The Royals game. It was bobblehead night. Well the first of 4 bobblehead game and we picked up this guy - after a minor snafu

My favorite part of the stadium is the fountains - especially at night..

Sunday is just a chill day relaxing and getting ready for the next week. Sitting back watching movies, an easy dinner of a clean eating chicken chopped salad. Maybe do a load of laundry maybe not. 

How do you spend your Sundays? Relaxed or packing in some last minute weekend activities?? 

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Just Finished - Mother, Mother - Koren Zailckas

Ever have a book that once you finish it you have no idea what to read next because nothing sounds good after the world you just finished. ...