Easy to say - not so easy to do...

This popped up in my Facebook feed Friday night - and the wheels started turning.  Its really easy to say "forgive them" whoever they are, but really HOW do you put that into practice?  Even if you forgive, doesn't whatever was done still play in your mind? Isn't that what the whole Forgive but don't forget line is about? So then is it really forgiveness. 

Sure somethings are easy to forgive - but aren't those infractions the ones that don't really eat at you? Are they not the simple things that most don't dwell on for long anyway? Which then begs the question again HOW. How do you forgive the big things - the things that really hurt deep down and leave scars on the heart and soul - those are the things that keep you from truly being at peace do they not?

Does anyone really ever forgive, or do you just lock those hurts and wrong doings away in the back of your mind only pulling them out every once in awhile to poke at them and test to see if they still hurt? Usually done after a bottle of wine or in the midst of a pity party when it seems like nothings going your way.

Do you find that no matter what you do there are just something that you can never forgive someone for?

Mid November So soon.... YIKES!

Can we slow time down just a tad - Kthanksbye... To say I am NOT ready for the Holiday's is an understatement. This year time has just gotten away from me with everything that has been going on.

Frankly anymore they are just to much pressure - the perfect pies, the perfect gift, oh I just need to get 1 more thing in case the neighbors come over. I'm exhausted thinking about it. This year I think I am going to bake, craft a few things and maybe give out coupons ie 1 evening of babysitting...  The thing that always stops me with that idea though is the thought "oh but they are going to be disappointed" which just points back to whats so wrong anymore with the "holidays".

I caught a lot of flack last year for not even putting up a Christmas Tree, psst I am not putting one up this year either.. I hung stocking and we had a Norfolk pine on the kitchen table. It was nice to have it low key and not have the "I have to put all this up" dread come January.


But enough of that - I am overwhelmed enough at the moment!

I have gotten some emails with some questions - several which are repeated so I thought I'd answer y'all here.

Q. How tall are you
A. 5'11 - Which yes this made for an interesting high experience. By them however I was used to the staring and whispers since I have always been taller than my friends and some adults!

Q. What do you do for a living.
A. Sorry I don't talk about work on the internets other than a slight mention that its been a busy week/month etc.

Q. What foundation are you using.
A. Honestly I don't spend my $ on foundation - I use Covergirl in Creamy Natural and I follow that with Cover Girl powder in the same color - I spend my money on eye shadow, liner and blush.

Q. Do you tan?
A. HAHAHAHA Nope I am as pale as they come - I glow in the dark. In the summer time my arms get some color because I pretty much live in tank tops. I did do a small stint in tanning beds in high school until I ran into a woman who looked more distressed than my purse. She had spent a life time in the sun and looked 15 years older than she was.

I will toss more Q & A on the blog next week... Have a great weekend!

Look Ma I wore COLOR!! And about 15 layers I'm COLD I need to refine that look though, the layers make me look bigger. Yes the spiked hair is back - I  MISSED it. Its my favorite.

So What Wednesday

So What if:

Its November - I HATE the cold. I hate winter coats, hats and gloves.  Cute boots are the ONLY saving grace for me for the colder weather.  I need new ones though and have not been able to find any I like so far.

I don't care that its not "PC" I sometimes have to roll  my eyes at all the "I need prayers please" all over facebook for things like I have acid reflux...

I don't care bitstrips are the newest thing, they are driving me nuts all over the feed. Yes I blocked them, but that does you no good if the user saves them to an album then uploads them... Most of them are NOT funny.

I am not your cup of tea, I'd rather be a shot of tequila anyhow.





This is the first season I have watched the Voice after the Blinds.  I usually just watch those then cancel my DVR recording when those are over. I am not sure why I decided to continue to watch, I am glad I did though. I must say this has been my favorite performance so far... Holy crap can this girl sing!

What's Your Damage Heather....

I think I need a weekend to recover from my weekend.. and it wasn't even a party weekend..

Saturday I was at my mother's to help clean the basement - yeah kill me now.  The problem is everything's a treasure. SOOOO her idea of "cleaning the basement" is more of a move this pile from here to over there... That is getting NOTHING accomplished. I did toss out an entire box I still had there and have plans to pick up a few more items that I had stored there or she is giving me..

I get WHY everything is  treasure. She was raised by parents who survived the Great Depression. Getting why however doesn't make it any LESS annoying as hell.  One problem with this frame of mind however is that she's downsizing and most of it has to go - it just has to. You can not fit a house of stuff (that includes a full basement) into a 2 bedroom apartment and not expect to purge the hell out of that house. Compounding the issue is that not only does she have 71 years of her treasures in there she has 72 years of her mother's treasures in there. Total of 143 years of CRAP.  Yet she gets upset that I have 3 boxes and 2 Rubbermaid tubs at her house. Say what? I counted 14 tubs of YARN just yarn. Full tubs too. Next time she tells me shes running to Hobby Lobby for yarn  I'm locking her in her house!

Saturday night D and I headed into Downtown for some Pho. The bowls are huge.. My lefts overs filled a 2 quart container and I swear I ate a good bit of it..

Sunday was the my Sunday to go into the office and do my bimonthly paperwork so I spent about 4 hours at work rocking out and doing paperwork. About 2 I left to go hit the nail salon and do the grocery shopping. Holy hell Wal-Mart looked like there was a massive natural disaster on its way. Everyone was there and NOTHING was on the shelves. 

Sunday evening I hung out with the Lil Man then took a last look at my paperwork before it was due Monday morning bright and early.. Now I just want a nap LOL.

Welcome to Friday ... and Shit That Made Me Laugh This Week

Shit that made me laugh this week:

This is an email between me and D yesterday when I sent him a Groupon for cupcakes.. $10 for a dozen minis delivered to your door..

D: Why?
K: Why what - LMAO? <~ This by the way is always  the proper response when someone questions baked goods..
D: Why cupcakes?
K: It was in my email - they look good
D: Ok
K: I didn't buy them - just showing you - they look though
D: LOL I was wondering why you were cupcake shopping :-)
K: LMAO I am window shopping cupcakes, I did however buy a black sweater like my teal one on clearance from Kohl's online. (Yes this is how my ADD mind works and he is used to it.)
D: Abrupt hard left turn from cupcakes to sweaters
K: If I eat the cupcakes I won't fit in the sweater  (because you know Joey doesn't share food)
D: True, that could happen in theory. (See here he's expecting Joey to share food)

Other things that made me laugh this week:

Fashion websites that lose their shit when the famous wear an outfit more than once... REALLY?? Regular people do that weekly. Stop acting like "OMG they are starting a trend".

The same sites that freak when a star cuts her hair off...

Vitamins with a calorie count... WTF its a vitamin dude..

Throwback Thursday and the Start of Hair Hating

I was thinking I was 3 or 4 here.. Now that I put some more thought into it I had to be 3. What you don't see is that my hair was down past my backside and shortly after this photo my mother cut it off to my ears.  That was natural curl that was loose enough to fall perfectly. After she cut if off - not so much. Its now morphed into a frizzy, wavy mess. Which has ended in years of hating my hair.. Thanks Mom.

These days I keep it cut off in order to not have an intense desire to shave it all off and spend a small fortune in wigs! I do go back and forth with growing it and wacking it back off.. Thank goodness my stylist loves me and is a personal friend, by now anyone else would have just strangled me by now.

I'm forever texting her pictures of hair and asking what do you think? Even right after she's given me a new style.. Sorry April - I do love you Sister.. Just last night as she was cutting it shorter just 3 weeks after we only "took a little off" so that it was a longer pixie, like Alice in Breaking Dawn's style, but was driving me batty and 2 weeks after she took it red. I looked at her smiled and said "after winter this shits going back blonde" she laughed and said I figured.

Thankfully it just hair and easy to change!!!

So What...

Woooohoooo its Wednesday...

So What If .....


I am over the red hair already. Yep I miss being blonde.

If I wore Nikes to the office today - my knees are killing me - dress shoes were OUT.

If Aztec leggings are IN - I think they look "off".  Same with the "bow shirts" those look like you are sporting genitalia on your back.. I had hoped by now that trend was over.

If I just jumped on CandyCrush - I was bored and surfing games in the Play Store and decided to download it.

If our complex has a gym  - I am still wanting a REAL gym membership at a place where the equipment is taken care of and doesn't walk out the door with a douchbag.


What are you so what about this Wednesday?