Thursday's Thoughts

I ended up in a Facebook political debate - yes I know and yes my eye is twitching like mad.

A friend of mine posted a petition that called for the DELAY, let us say that again DELAY of the votes for Kavanaugh and all hell broke loose.

I simply liked the post and gave my signature for support. Another friend of hers - a female made a comment that we are insane and that there is no good reason his confirmation should be withheld. Wait, what???  How about an investigation into the sexual assault claims? That is a GREAT reason to delay a vote on anything.

I made a comment to that effect and the statement "People are tired of rich white powerful men doing as they please" I was informed I am racist, a man-hater, I have issues with people having money and as of this morning insane. Y'all wonder why people don't report things...

Historically women reporting sexual assault are victimized all over again when they make the report. Her life choices are called into question, what was she wearing, how late was she out, did she have anything to drink, has she previously been sexually active, how much makeup did she have on? Then the all time - well she was asking for it. No, she was not. 

Women are raised to be constantly on guard toward men, we are taught what we wear can be distracting for them, how we laugh, how we eat, how we walk. We are taught from a very early age that we are "responsible" for the actions of men against us.  We are now saying NO, we are NOT.

How about teaching men to be responsible for their own actions. Teach them to control their own behaviors, emotions and responses?  There is not a man around who gets up in the morning thinking, I better not wear those pants, Julie in accounting may not be able to concentrate on the quarterly reports. He also is not thinking if I wear my hair this way, or this cologne does that say I am a slut?

Make NO mistake - there is not a woman on this earth who "asks" to be assaulted sexually or otherwise. I do not care how short her skirt is or what her make up looks like - that is NOT now or EVER will be an invitation to violate her.

For those wondering how after 35 years does she remember the details of the assault - let me assure you, a person who is assaulted - no matter HOW much time has past remembers. They live with that DAILY.  It is the one who assaults who gets fuzzy on the details and uses phrases like " Your Honour, I can't recall".

Professor Ford, I believe you and thank you for taking a stand. Despite knowing the backlash you and your family would receive. You deserve to be heard, not get death threats requiring your family to hide and security to be hired. Thank you for speaking up anyway.

Weekend Shenanigans

Friday night was Balloon Glow - which is when they air up the balloons at night the evening before the race in St Louis.  Unfortunately due to people thinking they can drive but actually can not - I missed the balloons - but did make it to see the fireworks.

I took these on my cell phone - not to bad.

Saturday was the Civil War walking tour at Bellefontaine Cemetary. I had an amazing time - the cemetery is stunning and the history lesson was nothing like your high school history class. I will be signing up for more tours. The tour was 3 hours and covered a little of 2 miles. We saw and learned about 60 individuals but in reality, only saw 1% of the cemetery.

These were also taken using my cell phone.

Sunday I really just puttered around my apartment - I got up worked out, cleaned house a little then watched some TV and later in the afternoon caught up on my favorite podcast at the moment.  I did dig out my little digital camera and charge it up so that I can also use that for capturing my adventures. While a cell phone is handy and these days takes amazing pictures - I also like my little digital camera. One of these days I will pick up a DSLR and get back into photography.


How was your weekend??

Wednesday Confess Sess

It's been a minute since I have done one of these ..


I am opting out of the haunted float trip - haunted houses are not my thing - I'd rather explore an actual haunted house and study the paranormal than to pay someone to jump out and scream at me.

By midweek I am tired as hell - but I can NOT seem to go to bed before 10 pm. Dang it I'm not twelve I don't wanna go to bed at 9!

I can not stand when someone speaks to me as though I am a child who does not understand something. I spent the better part of an hour on the phone yesterday going round and round with a young man who was hell-bent on telling me I had it wrong. Nope, come to find out had he just LISTENED and not spoken down to me.... I was correct.

Friends can break your heart just as much as a lover can. Unlike a lover, however, a lot of times that hurt will not heal.

I love the Kardashian's - Khloe is my favorite. I don't even call it a guilty pleasure anymore - eff that life is short - like what you like.


I just started watching Game of Thrones - I know I am really late to that party.. *Shrugs*

I have a book I am reading for a review - I can not seem to get into. I need to - the review is due, the book is being released into the wild soon - I .... Just..... Can't...... Get ..... Into.....It

17 years - Still Hard - Still Can't Find Words

Chris, I still wonder...

Easy Weekends

I love easy relaxed weekends. The biggest thing I did was Friday night - I rearranged my living room. Chilled out watching some YouTube videos - these days my favorite are just the vlogging  or the true crime channels. Set on auto play and just go - gotta love the Roku.

Saturday was run to Wal-Mart for a few things, I needed another lamp for the living room and some cleaning supplies. I also made some energy bites for next week. Saturday afternoon and evening was a Netflix and Amazon Prime streaming night. I watched Deadpool 2 again and then a few other movies - including "The Package" skip it, its as bad as it sounds - high school humor - and not good humor. That is 2 hours of my life I will regret not spending watching something better!!

My Jeep is equipped with Sirius so I signed up for a trial - I've used it on a limited basis before with rentals but I have a 2 month trial so might as well use it. I figure I spend a LOT of time in my jeep I might as well have the music I like and way less of the commercials and chatter.

Sunday was a do nothing - well more of nothing except a quick run to the nail salon and more watching YouTube. I probably should have ran to Aldi's for groceries but meh it did not happen. I'll go later.  This is my first chill weekend in a while and next weekend will be busy so I might as well take full advantage of the down time. Last weekend was the Annual Bitches Weekend and the one before that I was so sick I didn't know my own name. Next weekend is the Civil War walking tour in the cemetery then that night a haunted float trip down in Rolla. 

Hope y'all had a great weekend!!

The One About Fall Stuff

With Summer winding down I started looking around at different things to do around St Louis in cooler weather. Anyone else have a list of things they want to see or do before winter hits and no one ventures out because... COLD.

There are quite a few things I want to explore around here the first being Bellefontaine Cemetery  One of St.  Louis' oldest and most famous cemeteries.  There is a lot of history buried there, which I find intriguing, between William Clark of Lewis and Clark and the Civil War Soldiers to the Anheuser Busch family.

The grounds are also said to be extremely serene and beautiful. Next weekend there is a 3 hour Civil War history walking tour that I have registered for and am looking so forward to.

I also have plans to zipline down Meramec caverns and possibly a haunted float trip. I am not persay big on haunted houses in the Halloween tradition - I'd rather explore paranormal, but a float trip sounds fun. On the paranormal side there is the tour of Jefferson City Penituatury that is said to be very haunted - that has been on my list for a few months now as well as the Arch and some local hiking.

What is on your list for fall? Any local traditions or things you have yet to explore in your town??

Labor Day in the Rearview Mirror

Another Labor Day weekend come and gone. Have you the noticed days are just a tad shorter? Kids are back to school, there is more traffic on the commute. Starbucks has released the pumpkin spiced everything already. I bet you blinked - and are now wondering where it all went.

Soon the leaves will turn then fall from the trees as ghosts and goblins excitedly run from door to door yelling trick or treat and squealing at what they receive. Before you know it the family talk of whos bringing what to Thanksgiving will start. Then at Thanksgiving, the dinner conversation will generally head in the direction of "What do you need/want for Christmas?

Slow down take a breath and remember why you do what you do. Don't get so busy creating this life that you forget to have a life.  Before you know it everything is different, the kids are grown, nothing looks how it did and you swear all you did is close your eyes for a second.